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Friday 30 April 2010
Wednesday 21 April 2010
ANGELS AND WHEN TO ASK?
The Angels hear your messages constantly. Between us all, we keep them very busy!
As God’s messengers they work by listening to our requests from the heart and come very close to be with us watching over and comforting us particularly in times of difficulty. To my amazement, when a relationship came to an abrupt end, a few years ago I felt an angel right with me at the back of my chair. It was a terrible day, I had to drag myself into work to do a temporary job I didn’t really want to do but needless to say like with many of us unless I worked, I wouldn’t get paid. During the morning, I suddenly felt two beautiful wings giving me a comforting hug. I stopped typing and spun around in my office chair like a flash. There was no-one standing behind me at all, certainly not human anyway! In my heart I knew that it was definitely my Guardian Angel helping me get through the day.
Since starting to learn about the Angels and how they work with us, I have been extremely honoured in receiving some beautiful experiences, one of which was on a holiday in Cornwall several years ago. At the time I was really worried that I would run out of money and have to come back half way through my holiday which would have been very upsetting not only for me but extremely disappointing for my then 12 year old son. To be honest I knew that from the start, it would be a “tight holiday” as I couldn’t really afford to go at the time but nevertheless, I decided that we would camp and somehow we would manage.”
Whilst my son was busy surfing on Newquay beach, I went and had a browse around the shops in the town. I stopped for a cup of tea wondering what an earth I should do. As I glanced down at the cafe floor I noticed a small white feather at my feet. I picked it up and put it in my purse. I then decided that I would look at my Bank Account anyway because I felt for certain that the Angels were trying to tell me something, they certainly were! When I looked at the balance at the cash point machine, I noticed that I had a very large sum of money deposited in my account which definitely wasn’t there the day before. Stunned, I went into the Bank and asked how it got in there! They told me in the Bank they didn’t know who paid it in but it was a definite credit. I found out later that it was a tax rebate that I had no idea was coming which had just happened to arrive when I was on holiday.
I returned to the beach to tell my son the good news and we went out to dinner! A really anxious holiday soon turned into a great one. I thanked the Angels as I knew that they had something to do with making this happen while we were away so that we could enjoy ourselves and have a much needed break. “It’s a miracle we kept saying over and over!” My son now firmly believes in miracles and cosmic ordering and he is exceedingly good at manifesting.
Car parking spaces have become a lot easier as well. I always use to ask about a car parking space well in advance. When I left my house to arrive in the local town I would always say “Angels please let me find a car parking space easily.” One would always appear very quickly with someone just coming out in the row I was entering. It wouldn’t matter if it was a multi storey small town car park or just along the road, the angels would never let me down.
I noticed that when I forgot all about asking the angels to provide a place well ahead and I decided to ask when I got there, a space would still appear just as easily. In fact, I decided to keep still and see if one appeared right in front of me and believe it or not this actually happened! I just gave up driving round and round and trusted that I was in the right place at the right time which obviously I was.
Angels don’t need us to ask way in advance nor do we have to ask more than once. It is not about repetition of requests but more about certainty that our request has value and worth and it deserves to be answered. I am not suggesting that you cause an enormous queue in car parks but believing that you are worthy of having a place or the certainty that the angels can hear you and respond.
“I know I will find a car parking space in this row because someone is about to leave!” The Angels do not have a sense of time, it is only us here and now that think of time. So in theory request from the angels can literally be granted in seconds rather than waiting. However some things definitely take longer to manifest than others. The rate in which something manifests rather depends on which “movie” you are watching. What is your reality? The easiest way to understand this is to watch “What the Bleep Do We Know as it illustrates this very well in the scene where the child is shooting baskets on a basket ball court and the film shows to us the endless possibilities (or movies). Our thoughts and beliefs create our reality. We could have several movies happening at the same time. I have until recently had two or more going on or sometimes three! One where I am extremely successful happy, have a lovely partner and a fantastic home and another where I am moderately ok living in a nice home but not the home I really want or deserve. Often the mind switches between the movies and I continually have to bring myself back to the now to feel that I really am safe and loved exactly where I am.
If this is happening to you, then of course manifestation will be slow. “What an earth?” say the Angels; these people are always changing their requests! They start to send you one thing and before it is complete it has dematerialised and they have to start all over again.
We can make things so much easier if we decide to watch only one movie, focusing on our heart’s desire. Then, when the opportunities come our way we grab them with open arms and thank the angels for assisting us in this process. The Angels hear you requests all of them, so try and make your intentions crystal clear.
Does it really matter? if you want it too, it will!
Jennifer Lynch
As God’s messengers they work by listening to our requests from the heart and come very close to be with us watching over and comforting us particularly in times of difficulty. To my amazement, when a relationship came to an abrupt end, a few years ago I felt an angel right with me at the back of my chair. It was a terrible day, I had to drag myself into work to do a temporary job I didn’t really want to do but needless to say like with many of us unless I worked, I wouldn’t get paid. During the morning, I suddenly felt two beautiful wings giving me a comforting hug. I stopped typing and spun around in my office chair like a flash. There was no-one standing behind me at all, certainly not human anyway! In my heart I knew that it was definitely my Guardian Angel helping me get through the day.
Since starting to learn about the Angels and how they work with us, I have been extremely honoured in receiving some beautiful experiences, one of which was on a holiday in Cornwall several years ago. At the time I was really worried that I would run out of money and have to come back half way through my holiday which would have been very upsetting not only for me but extremely disappointing for my then 12 year old son. To be honest I knew that from the start, it would be a “tight holiday” as I couldn’t really afford to go at the time but nevertheless, I decided that we would camp and somehow we would manage.”
Whilst my son was busy surfing on Newquay beach, I went and had a browse around the shops in the town. I stopped for a cup of tea wondering what an earth I should do. As I glanced down at the cafe floor I noticed a small white feather at my feet. I picked it up and put it in my purse. I then decided that I would look at my Bank Account anyway because I felt for certain that the Angels were trying to tell me something, they certainly were! When I looked at the balance at the cash point machine, I noticed that I had a very large sum of money deposited in my account which definitely wasn’t there the day before. Stunned, I went into the Bank and asked how it got in there! They told me in the Bank they didn’t know who paid it in but it was a definite credit. I found out later that it was a tax rebate that I had no idea was coming which had just happened to arrive when I was on holiday.
I returned to the beach to tell my son the good news and we went out to dinner! A really anxious holiday soon turned into a great one. I thanked the Angels as I knew that they had something to do with making this happen while we were away so that we could enjoy ourselves and have a much needed break. “It’s a miracle we kept saying over and over!” My son now firmly believes in miracles and cosmic ordering and he is exceedingly good at manifesting.
Car parking spaces have become a lot easier as well. I always use to ask about a car parking space well in advance. When I left my house to arrive in the local town I would always say “Angels please let me find a car parking space easily.” One would always appear very quickly with someone just coming out in the row I was entering. It wouldn’t matter if it was a multi storey small town car park or just along the road, the angels would never let me down.
I noticed that when I forgot all about asking the angels to provide a place well ahead and I decided to ask when I got there, a space would still appear just as easily. In fact, I decided to keep still and see if one appeared right in front of me and believe it or not this actually happened! I just gave up driving round and round and trusted that I was in the right place at the right time which obviously I was.
Angels don’t need us to ask way in advance nor do we have to ask more than once. It is not about repetition of requests but more about certainty that our request has value and worth and it deserves to be answered. I am not suggesting that you cause an enormous queue in car parks but believing that you are worthy of having a place or the certainty that the angels can hear you and respond.
“I know I will find a car parking space in this row because someone is about to leave!” The Angels do not have a sense of time, it is only us here and now that think of time. So in theory request from the angels can literally be granted in seconds rather than waiting. However some things definitely take longer to manifest than others. The rate in which something manifests rather depends on which “movie” you are watching. What is your reality? The easiest way to understand this is to watch “What the Bleep Do We Know as it illustrates this very well in the scene where the child is shooting baskets on a basket ball court and the film shows to us the endless possibilities (or movies). Our thoughts and beliefs create our reality. We could have several movies happening at the same time. I have until recently had two or more going on or sometimes three! One where I am extremely successful happy, have a lovely partner and a fantastic home and another where I am moderately ok living in a nice home but not the home I really want or deserve. Often the mind switches between the movies and I continually have to bring myself back to the now to feel that I really am safe and loved exactly where I am.
If this is happening to you, then of course manifestation will be slow. “What an earth?” say the Angels; these people are always changing their requests! They start to send you one thing and before it is complete it has dematerialised and they have to start all over again.
We can make things so much easier if we decide to watch only one movie, focusing on our heart’s desire. Then, when the opportunities come our way we grab them with open arms and thank the angels for assisting us in this process. The Angels hear you requests all of them, so try and make your intentions crystal clear.
Does it really matter? if you want it too, it will!
Jennifer Lynch
THE WISDOM OF THE ARCHANGELS
Archangel Michael – Electric Blue – Divine Will and Joy
“Call upon me in times of fear. I will guide you through the many trials and tribulations of life by offering you my divine protection. See my light spiralling around you keeping your safe. I am with you.”
Michael’s positivity very quickly transmutes our negative thoughts as well as dispelling the negative actions of others. Visualise him standing in front of you and ask for his divine protection. His sword of light has a powerful blue ray which brings in love, compassion and healing. It is known the sword of truth. Archangel Michael asks that we learn to “trust” in who we are by feeling the light of truth and honour (integrity). His sword of light guides us when we are lost. He illuminates our path and brings us out of darkness. He is by our side at times of need. He heals our hearts and brings in light love and compassion. Ask for him to be with you when fearful or alone especially when you going on any journey through life. He can also be called upon when going on a journey in your car. Some people say that his sword of light represents “Christ Consciousness.” This energy has a high frequency energy which helps dissolve illusions and brings wisdom. His light of truth enables us to move forward by releasing. Christ consciousness is much evolved energy which is here now to help humanity evolve. This energy is accessible to anyone who asks. It is important for me to say that there are angels mentioned in many different religions and they do not belong solely to Christianity. For ease of purpose I have referred to the Angels as (him but they could just as easily be her).
Meditation for Releasing
We can call upon Archangel Michael to help release us from situations in life that no longer serve us. If you are finding it hard to move on from someone in your life, but you know in your heart that the situation isn’t right he is always there to help.
First, visualise you and the other person standing in a figure of 8 made of golden light. Ask Archangel Michael to release you both with love and light and wisdom so that you can both move forward. It could be the case that you need to do this in order to step forward on your path and the person is (although not always intentionally holding you back). See Michael cutting any cords between you with his powerful sword. As the cords are released the two circles part and they become separate. They remain as two very strong circles of light. Each person is protected by the powerful light but they are released from each other. Thank Michael for help and divine protection.
See your friend stepping away from you in his or her own circle of light smiling and happy and give thanks.
Archangel Gabriel - known as bringer or messenger – primarily associated with compassion.
Gabriel is the 8th Archangel. Gabriel with Michael rule over the aetheric soul which give light to soul and body but astrologically he rules the moon (emotions of the soul) Cancer.
Gabriel is the source for our inspiration and imagination. He helps us express our creativity as he shines divine light and celebrates our individuality. Gabriel’s energy is relentless as he guides humanity and points us in the right direction. At times we feel “like lost sheep” but he is always there as a pillar of strength and encouragement. When we get stuck and don’t know which way to turn he acts as a sign post for us and enables us move forward. He also helps with new creative ideas. His energy is very strongly associated with creation, birth and maternity. He helps our confidence and enables us to move forward with love and awareness. He is extremely strong and helps us to confront our own barriers and reflect upon our limiting beliefs! He is gentle kind and re-assuring and can also be called upon to comfort and heal our pain. I see Gabriel pointing his finger like a guiding star who is giving us both direction and wisdom. Trust in Gabriel as he can bring balance, inspiration and wisdom to us by showing “a clear way forward”. He brings positive messages and assures us that it is safe for us to be powerful. He also helps us understand our dreams and enhances intuition and clairvoyance as Gabriel rules those going beyond the astral. He can be seen in the Tarot as blowing a trumpet on Judgement Day!
Rays Silver and Deep Blue- Planet Neptune
Crystal for confidence – Citrine
Dream recall – Red Jasper placed under the pillow
Archangel Raphael - The Healer - Integration
Raphael enables our chakras to receive more light. Call upon him and feel the integration of body, mind and spirit joining together. His main purpose is to renew and change as we leave the old in comes the new. Sometimes we don’t find it easy to accept the old because we feel stuck or not good enough in some way to accept and embrace the new but Raphael helps with transition.
His energy is very strong and powerful and his healing transcends all time and space. Raphael is extremely virtuous. He has emerald green light in his halo and he uses this green or emerald energy to help with healing. We can ask Raphael to help us and use the emerald green light for our own healing.
Crystals for Healing – Heart Chakra - Green Emeralds, Rose Quartz.
Uriel – God is my Light -Divine Fire – Keeper of Earth Mysteries
Uriel is both an Archangel and a cherub or Seraph angel. He is above us and oversees us but he is very responsible for our connection to planet earth. He helps us with repentance by washing away our negativity as we learn to forgive others and ourselves (in religious terms this is known as repentance). He holds a disc of tarnished copper reminding us of the stability of our connection through the earth. He represents our security and search for stability and our confidence of success! He is often seen as an emblem of a bull extremely strong and determined as well as there is no holding him back. He watches over thunder and terror and unleashes our inner wisdom.
He is both a hurricane and a calm sea. He is the angel of the southerly fair wind. He stands at the gate of Eden with his sword of fire. He is very much connected to the elemental realms or nature spirits which restore harmony beauty and balance. He is associated with electricity and fire/solar energy.
Planet – Uranus – metal - copper – his rays golden orange, rose and purple. Perception
Crystals – Amethyst for perception, Angelite to connect to the wisdom of the angels.
Jennifer Lynch
“Call upon me in times of fear. I will guide you through the many trials and tribulations of life by offering you my divine protection. See my light spiralling around you keeping your safe. I am with you.”
Michael’s positivity very quickly transmutes our negative thoughts as well as dispelling the negative actions of others. Visualise him standing in front of you and ask for his divine protection. His sword of light has a powerful blue ray which brings in love, compassion and healing. It is known the sword of truth. Archangel Michael asks that we learn to “trust” in who we are by feeling the light of truth and honour (integrity). His sword of light guides us when we are lost. He illuminates our path and brings us out of darkness. He is by our side at times of need. He heals our hearts and brings in light love and compassion. Ask for him to be with you when fearful or alone especially when you going on any journey through life. He can also be called upon when going on a journey in your car. Some people say that his sword of light represents “Christ Consciousness.” This energy has a high frequency energy which helps dissolve illusions and brings wisdom. His light of truth enables us to move forward by releasing. Christ consciousness is much evolved energy which is here now to help humanity evolve. This energy is accessible to anyone who asks. It is important for me to say that there are angels mentioned in many different religions and they do not belong solely to Christianity. For ease of purpose I have referred to the Angels as (him but they could just as easily be her).
Meditation for Releasing
We can call upon Archangel Michael to help release us from situations in life that no longer serve us. If you are finding it hard to move on from someone in your life, but you know in your heart that the situation isn’t right he is always there to help.
First, visualise you and the other person standing in a figure of 8 made of golden light. Ask Archangel Michael to release you both with love and light and wisdom so that you can both move forward. It could be the case that you need to do this in order to step forward on your path and the person is (although not always intentionally holding you back). See Michael cutting any cords between you with his powerful sword. As the cords are released the two circles part and they become separate. They remain as two very strong circles of light. Each person is protected by the powerful light but they are released from each other. Thank Michael for help and divine protection.
See your friend stepping away from you in his or her own circle of light smiling and happy and give thanks.
Archangel Gabriel - known as bringer or messenger – primarily associated with compassion.
Gabriel is the 8th Archangel. Gabriel with Michael rule over the aetheric soul which give light to soul and body but astrologically he rules the moon (emotions of the soul) Cancer.
Gabriel is the source for our inspiration and imagination. He helps us express our creativity as he shines divine light and celebrates our individuality. Gabriel’s energy is relentless as he guides humanity and points us in the right direction. At times we feel “like lost sheep” but he is always there as a pillar of strength and encouragement. When we get stuck and don’t know which way to turn he acts as a sign post for us and enables us move forward. He also helps with new creative ideas. His energy is very strongly associated with creation, birth and maternity. He helps our confidence and enables us to move forward with love and awareness. He is extremely strong and helps us to confront our own barriers and reflect upon our limiting beliefs! He is gentle kind and re-assuring and can also be called upon to comfort and heal our pain. I see Gabriel pointing his finger like a guiding star who is giving us both direction and wisdom. Trust in Gabriel as he can bring balance, inspiration and wisdom to us by showing “a clear way forward”. He brings positive messages and assures us that it is safe for us to be powerful. He also helps us understand our dreams and enhances intuition and clairvoyance as Gabriel rules those going beyond the astral. He can be seen in the Tarot as blowing a trumpet on Judgement Day!
Rays Silver and Deep Blue- Planet Neptune
Crystal for confidence – Citrine
Dream recall – Red Jasper placed under the pillow
Archangel Raphael - The Healer - Integration
Raphael enables our chakras to receive more light. Call upon him and feel the integration of body, mind and spirit joining together. His main purpose is to renew and change as we leave the old in comes the new. Sometimes we don’t find it easy to accept the old because we feel stuck or not good enough in some way to accept and embrace the new but Raphael helps with transition.
His energy is very strong and powerful and his healing transcends all time and space. Raphael is extremely virtuous. He has emerald green light in his halo and he uses this green or emerald energy to help with healing. We can ask Raphael to help us and use the emerald green light for our own healing.
Crystals for Healing – Heart Chakra - Green Emeralds, Rose Quartz.
Uriel – God is my Light -Divine Fire – Keeper of Earth Mysteries
Uriel is both an Archangel and a cherub or Seraph angel. He is above us and oversees us but he is very responsible for our connection to planet earth. He helps us with repentance by washing away our negativity as we learn to forgive others and ourselves (in religious terms this is known as repentance). He holds a disc of tarnished copper reminding us of the stability of our connection through the earth. He represents our security and search for stability and our confidence of success! He is often seen as an emblem of a bull extremely strong and determined as well as there is no holding him back. He watches over thunder and terror and unleashes our inner wisdom.
He is both a hurricane and a calm sea. He is the angel of the southerly fair wind. He stands at the gate of Eden with his sword of fire. He is very much connected to the elemental realms or nature spirits which restore harmony beauty and balance. He is associated with electricity and fire/solar energy.
Planet – Uranus – metal - copper – his rays golden orange, rose and purple. Perception
Crystals – Amethyst for perception, Angelite to connect to the wisdom of the angels.
Jennifer Lynch
Sunday 11 April 2010
Dating And Maturity
Dating and maturity
By the time a woman or man has reached thirty-five to forty, are they really looking for something different from the dating scene? The age of forty is considered now still be quite young with people living for so much younger, not even middle aged! When I was a child I held an image of people in their forties being old and frumpy and ready for knitting for expectant grandchildren. Nowadays, as people tend to have families later than a decade ago thirty or even forty can still be an age for going out and having fun. Certainly there are all modes of entertainment for that age group, from Bands, Theatres, Restaurants, Cinemas and numerous dance classes, it is all out there if you want to find it.
In my experience, by the time a woman has entered into this age group, they are often a lot more sure of what they are looking for in life. Men however seem to be much more casual in relationships seeming unsure of what they want. It could be that women recover from knock backs in romance in the way of divorce separations more easily than men. To a certain extent, without seeming to be prejudice against men, women have just had to get on with it. Although a man has traditionally been the breadwinner and certainly has to carry on in that role, a woman has had to hold the family together and put the needs of the children before her. She has learnt to share, to be second or even third place in the family and when push comes to shove in a lot of ways she is much more adaptable.
When someone has gone through a messy relationship breakup, there may well be baggage. From a man’s point of view “baggage” can particularly relate to children and ex- partners but from a woman’s point of view men can also have baggage in the way of unexpressed emotions. Men are more inclined to hold on to anger because they are unable to communicate in the same way women do. Women love to talk about and share their problems with other women but who do men talk to and even if they do talk are they able to express their feelings in the same way, being wired differently! The term “baggage” however, can feel very unpleasant and seems to stick to women like glue as it is often banded about in the dating scene. It creates feelings of inadequacy and negativity as well as a feeling of “how dare he talk about my children like that!”
However it is certainly true to say that emotional issues tend to come to the fore and the same old situations keep resurfacing again and again as people tend to go from one relationship to another without really thinking of what they want from relationships.
There are terms such as “a casual relationship” often mentioned on dating sites, or “see how it goes” or even serious which tend to leave you in a complete state of confusion with “I hadn’t really thought about it before and why would you, when it may be the first time you have been on the dating scene for many years. One of the problems is with women in particular, is that they often do want “a serious relationship” but they are scared of saying what they want for fear of frightening someone off or not feeling worthy. If a woman feels unworthy because of feelings of low self esteem due to a past relationship then she may actually fear having another decent relationship with a man because of worrying she could never make the grade and so she may opt for something she really doesn’t want. She will often sell herself short and settle for a casual or see how it goes affair which doesn’t bring her happiness and just keeps her in a cycle of self-destruction.
This is definitely where the Law of Attraction can be very helpful along with good old fashioned sense!
Think about the type of person that you are looking for in your life.
Believe that he/she is out there and he/she is also looking for you with positive expectancy
Write a list of qualities that you would like your partner to have and keep them positive!
Avoid saying the words no, or not or this and that, just stick to what you do want
i.e. He is really kind or he is good with money (or both of these!)
Stating an age range is also a good idea and also that you would like him to be completely available to spend time with you. That way you won’t attract anyone married or still attached in some way.
Be realistic but at the same time kind to yourself.
If you would like an attractive man or woman, then give a physical description of what she looks like. What is attractive to you may not be attractive to someone else and so the words “I find attractive” may be useful.
Do not feel guilty about putting your requests out into the ethers. It is the same process for anything you want to achieve in your life whether it is getting a book published, passing your driving test or getting that important job. Know it and you have won.
“Or now it and you have won” – bring your thoughts into the now to the point where you can feel the success rising in you.
The most important thing of all when we make our request is that we ask with a centred heart and that we allow good things into our life. “The Law of Allowing” Esther and Jerry Hicks
There are so many ways that people look for what traditionally was called Mr. Right but now tends to be “my soul mate or my twin soul.” As I say in my books I definitely believe that we have more than one soul mate as many large soul groups evolve and work together, so it could be that the feeling of recognition that you have with someone is just another person from your soul group.
Timing is ultimately the most important thing, as there may be many good reasons why you meet certain people in your life at times and sometimes it is about just carrying you forward to the next stage of your journey. Relationships can often be very short, or they can go happily on for many years.
The traditional pattern of meeting someone when you are young and carrying that relationship on through to old age is not as common now as it use to be with the divorce rate rising. There are often more issues to do with trust as so many people are running like scared rabbits but they are no longer sure what they are running to or from it is just like a crazy scene from Watership Down!
Feel rest assured that although there are many nearly identical slippers for you to try, there is only one slipper that really fits you. It is normally the one which is the most comfortable and doesn’t nip, rub or hurt!
Jennifer Lynch
By the time a woman or man has reached thirty-five to forty, are they really looking for something different from the dating scene? The age of forty is considered now still be quite young with people living for so much younger, not even middle aged! When I was a child I held an image of people in their forties being old and frumpy and ready for knitting for expectant grandchildren. Nowadays, as people tend to have families later than a decade ago thirty or even forty can still be an age for going out and having fun. Certainly there are all modes of entertainment for that age group, from Bands, Theatres, Restaurants, Cinemas and numerous dance classes, it is all out there if you want to find it.
In my experience, by the time a woman has entered into this age group, they are often a lot more sure of what they are looking for in life. Men however seem to be much more casual in relationships seeming unsure of what they want. It could be that women recover from knock backs in romance in the way of divorce separations more easily than men. To a certain extent, without seeming to be prejudice against men, women have just had to get on with it. Although a man has traditionally been the breadwinner and certainly has to carry on in that role, a woman has had to hold the family together and put the needs of the children before her. She has learnt to share, to be second or even third place in the family and when push comes to shove in a lot of ways she is much more adaptable.
When someone has gone through a messy relationship breakup, there may well be baggage. From a man’s point of view “baggage” can particularly relate to children and ex- partners but from a woman’s point of view men can also have baggage in the way of unexpressed emotions. Men are more inclined to hold on to anger because they are unable to communicate in the same way women do. Women love to talk about and share their problems with other women but who do men talk to and even if they do talk are they able to express their feelings in the same way, being wired differently! The term “baggage” however, can feel very unpleasant and seems to stick to women like glue as it is often banded about in the dating scene. It creates feelings of inadequacy and negativity as well as a feeling of “how dare he talk about my children like that!”
However it is certainly true to say that emotional issues tend to come to the fore and the same old situations keep resurfacing again and again as people tend to go from one relationship to another without really thinking of what they want from relationships.
There are terms such as “a casual relationship” often mentioned on dating sites, or “see how it goes” or even serious which tend to leave you in a complete state of confusion with “I hadn’t really thought about it before and why would you, when it may be the first time you have been on the dating scene for many years. One of the problems is with women in particular, is that they often do want “a serious relationship” but they are scared of saying what they want for fear of frightening someone off or not feeling worthy. If a woman feels unworthy because of feelings of low self esteem due to a past relationship then she may actually fear having another decent relationship with a man because of worrying she could never make the grade and so she may opt for something she really doesn’t want. She will often sell herself short and settle for a casual or see how it goes affair which doesn’t bring her happiness and just keeps her in a cycle of self-destruction.
This is definitely where the Law of Attraction can be very helpful along with good old fashioned sense!
Think about the type of person that you are looking for in your life.
Believe that he/she is out there and he/she is also looking for you with positive expectancy
Write a list of qualities that you would like your partner to have and keep them positive!
Avoid saying the words no, or not or this and that, just stick to what you do want
i.e. He is really kind or he is good with money (or both of these!)
Stating an age range is also a good idea and also that you would like him to be completely available to spend time with you. That way you won’t attract anyone married or still attached in some way.
Be realistic but at the same time kind to yourself.
If you would like an attractive man or woman, then give a physical description of what she looks like. What is attractive to you may not be attractive to someone else and so the words “I find attractive” may be useful.
Do not feel guilty about putting your requests out into the ethers. It is the same process for anything you want to achieve in your life whether it is getting a book published, passing your driving test or getting that important job. Know it and you have won.
“Or now it and you have won” – bring your thoughts into the now to the point where you can feel the success rising in you.
The most important thing of all when we make our request is that we ask with a centred heart and that we allow good things into our life. “The Law of Allowing” Esther and Jerry Hicks
There are so many ways that people look for what traditionally was called Mr. Right but now tends to be “my soul mate or my twin soul.” As I say in my books I definitely believe that we have more than one soul mate as many large soul groups evolve and work together, so it could be that the feeling of recognition that you have with someone is just another person from your soul group.
Timing is ultimately the most important thing, as there may be many good reasons why you meet certain people in your life at times and sometimes it is about just carrying you forward to the next stage of your journey. Relationships can often be very short, or they can go happily on for many years.
The traditional pattern of meeting someone when you are young and carrying that relationship on through to old age is not as common now as it use to be with the divorce rate rising. There are often more issues to do with trust as so many people are running like scared rabbits but they are no longer sure what they are running to or from it is just like a crazy scene from Watership Down!
Feel rest assured that although there are many nearly identical slippers for you to try, there is only one slipper that really fits you. It is normally the one which is the most comfortable and doesn’t nip, rub or hurt!
Jennifer Lynch
Women Of a Certain Age
WOMEN OF A CERTAIN AGE
I was recently offered the opportunity to be considered for a feature in a National Newspaper or a feature within a range of magazines. But at the same time, I was also told, that I may be too old for some of the popular magazines I had always admired. Believe it or not some of the top women’s magazines are no longer interested in features about women over the age of 45! Why not I hear you ask, surely we are in our prime, we certainly by no means old or ready for the social scrap heap! How true this is, I don’t really know because I certainly didn’t check the facts but it could be true?
There seems to be a lot of focus in the media over the past few years about women who have their career and become mothers later on in life. They start their career path by going to University, and then begin in a relevant job which they are dedicated to for many years and then they gradually climb the career ladder sometimes becoming very successful. It could be that these women’s career prospects improve throughout their middle twenties and by their late thirties to early forties they have become very successful business women.
Women generally are having children later in life not that it is recommended by the medical profession, with the fertility rate dropping rapidly after the age of 25 but nevertheless, for some career women it is no doubt the first time they have even given real thought to the matter of having children. I know when I was pregnant in my twenties I was horrified to discover that my boss was also pregnant at the age of 38 and when you are 24, you certainly can view a woman of that age too old to have a baby. This seems ridiculous to me now as to know as undoubtedly .what is right for one person is certainly not right for the next. Free will and the importance of personal choice are paramount to any situation.
So despite the fact that ageism is one of the” isms” that we generally get all fired up about and certainly is not considered to be “pc” in today’s world, it still exists. Attitudes towards age are very real in the world of media. It would appear that there is however that there is a whole load of interest and intrigue about older women having babies now especially women who give birth in their late fifties and early sixties! However women who want careers later on in life having been devoted mothers for the last twenty years could by all accounts appear to be “kicked to the kerb.”
However the late arrival of babies into this world through older women, reminds us that anything is possible in today’s world and if you want to do a degree when you are sixty, why not!
So what happens about women who have children young because they want to be young parents believing that this is the right thing? They may have left school at sixteen like I did, didn’t go to University because they were considered Miss Average and then worked their way up We started with the bun run remember that and escalated through a number of jobs. We were then happily married in our early twenties and had our first children about the age of twenty three to twenty eight as over twenty eight was definitely considered too old to have a baby in the eighties.
This was certainly considered the normal pattern for women for many years. As young mothers but not teenage mums, they still may not have had time to establish a career. It could just be that they had an average to fairly good job, being a job that paid enough to pay the mortgage and live on.
These women or Miss Averages who were neither very young single parents, nor old career women may consider that when their children reach their twenties that they are still young enough to “go out and get that career they never had.” Now these very interesting and go getting women who have had all the experience and hard work of bringing up a family are told that they are old and uninteresting or features that may be written about them which would definitely be appealing to women of all ages are resigned to the older the mature magazines. Hang on a minute...
Is it remarkable that some of us actually chose to stay at home as we believed that it would make us good mothers and that we actually wanted to spend more time with our children in preference to going out to work.
So I am asking you readers can’t we be both? Surely we can be both mature in spirit as women and also young in body and attitude. Some of us for the first time in our lives perhaps getting that opportunity to progress up the career ladder, or may be going for that degree. Or it might be the right time for us to train for a brand new career. Can we go out and enjoy a night out dancing salsa with female friends or join a social group, without feeling that we are out of touch with the younger women. In one respect women are being told forty is the new 20 and we are also being under-valued for our life experience.
If you have a toy boy apparently you are in and if you are willing to hurt someone you love by saying things which aren’t strictly true then this is also enormously popular. Thankfully, forty year old women have lost the needy desire to compromise who they just for recognition but along with this it is apparent that we are also denied a certain amount of opportunity. It is not a requirement to put your age on your CV but certainly it someone does know your age it may go against you. So come on over forties with grown up kids, let the world know what you have to offer and step forward with the confidence, wisdom encompassing all of your life’s experience. We are certainly not ready to knit baby jackets, or be part of the media scrap heap.
I was recently offered the opportunity to be considered for a feature in a National Newspaper or a feature within a range of magazines. But at the same time, I was also told, that I may be too old for some of the popular magazines I had always admired. Believe it or not some of the top women’s magazines are no longer interested in features about women over the age of 45! Why not I hear you ask, surely we are in our prime, we certainly by no means old or ready for the social scrap heap! How true this is, I don’t really know because I certainly didn’t check the facts but it could be true?
There seems to be a lot of focus in the media over the past few years about women who have their career and become mothers later on in life. They start their career path by going to University, and then begin in a relevant job which they are dedicated to for many years and then they gradually climb the career ladder sometimes becoming very successful. It could be that these women’s career prospects improve throughout their middle twenties and by their late thirties to early forties they have become very successful business women.
Women generally are having children later in life not that it is recommended by the medical profession, with the fertility rate dropping rapidly after the age of 25 but nevertheless, for some career women it is no doubt the first time they have even given real thought to the matter of having children. I know when I was pregnant in my twenties I was horrified to discover that my boss was also pregnant at the age of 38 and when you are 24, you certainly can view a woman of that age too old to have a baby. This seems ridiculous to me now as to know as undoubtedly .what is right for one person is certainly not right for the next. Free will and the importance of personal choice are paramount to any situation.
So despite the fact that ageism is one of the” isms” that we generally get all fired up about and certainly is not considered to be “pc” in today’s world, it still exists. Attitudes towards age are very real in the world of media. It would appear that there is however that there is a whole load of interest and intrigue about older women having babies now especially women who give birth in their late fifties and early sixties! However women who want careers later on in life having been devoted mothers for the last twenty years could by all accounts appear to be “kicked to the kerb.”
However the late arrival of babies into this world through older women, reminds us that anything is possible in today’s world and if you want to do a degree when you are sixty, why not!
So what happens about women who have children young because they want to be young parents believing that this is the right thing? They may have left school at sixteen like I did, didn’t go to University because they were considered Miss Average and then worked their way up We started with the bun run remember that and escalated through a number of jobs. We were then happily married in our early twenties and had our first children about the age of twenty three to twenty eight as over twenty eight was definitely considered too old to have a baby in the eighties.
This was certainly considered the normal pattern for women for many years. As young mothers but not teenage mums, they still may not have had time to establish a career. It could just be that they had an average to fairly good job, being a job that paid enough to pay the mortgage and live on.
These women or Miss Averages who were neither very young single parents, nor old career women may consider that when their children reach their twenties that they are still young enough to “go out and get that career they never had.” Now these very interesting and go getting women who have had all the experience and hard work of bringing up a family are told that they are old and uninteresting or features that may be written about them which would definitely be appealing to women of all ages are resigned to the older the mature magazines. Hang on a minute...
Is it remarkable that some of us actually chose to stay at home as we believed that it would make us good mothers and that we actually wanted to spend more time with our children in preference to going out to work.
So I am asking you readers can’t we be both? Surely we can be both mature in spirit as women and also young in body and attitude. Some of us for the first time in our lives perhaps getting that opportunity to progress up the career ladder, or may be going for that degree. Or it might be the right time for us to train for a brand new career. Can we go out and enjoy a night out dancing salsa with female friends or join a social group, without feeling that we are out of touch with the younger women. In one respect women are being told forty is the new 20 and we are also being under-valued for our life experience.
If you have a toy boy apparently you are in and if you are willing to hurt someone you love by saying things which aren’t strictly true then this is also enormously popular. Thankfully, forty year old women have lost the needy desire to compromise who they just for recognition but along with this it is apparent that we are also denied a certain amount of opportunity. It is not a requirement to put your age on your CV but certainly it someone does know your age it may go against you. So come on over forties with grown up kids, let the world know what you have to offer and step forward with the confidence, wisdom encompassing all of your life’s experience. We are certainly not ready to knit baby jackets, or be part of the media scrap heap.
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